Your friend’s child takes the dog out for a walk without being asked and tidies her room every day. Your cousin has a 9-year-old who puts her dishes in the sink when she finishes dinner, no reminders needed. Do you ever wonder where all of these wonder children come from? Some children just go about their day completing their tasks without being told twice, while many others have to be reminded of their chores again and again… and again. Ingraining responsibility in your child is akin to teaching him/her a life skill, and is paramount to their overall development.
According to a study that we conducted across various schools, we found that 70% of the parents said their children (aged 6-10 years) were responsible and completed their chores without being harried into completing them. Knowing one’s personal responsibilities and completing them empowers children with the perseverance and leadership abilities to take control of a given situation and improve themselves in the process. While completing a task, children learn that they have the power to influence that particular situation and they also learn to control and adapt their reactions to different conditions.
When children know how to be reponsible for their actions:
- They learn important skills such as problem solving and how to adapt to different scenarios
- You can identify the children’s strengths and weaknesses. By taking responsibility for their own learning, your child will be able to get a better idea of what they are best at – and what they need to work harder at
- Giving children chores can build your child’s self-esteem. Getting a chore done and doing it well can provide your child with a sense of achievement
- Accomplishing tasks will also build your child’s leadership qualities, and encourage him/her to take the lead at completing tasks
Children who don’t take responsibility for their chores face trouble working in teams face issues with time-bound tasks and more often than not the home transforms into a warzone, with power struggles between the parents and children.
Teaching your child responsibility
Here’s a parenting tip: You and your child need to sit together and brainstorm to make a list of areas and ways your child can help you with a task. This will help you identify the areas where your child can be helpful; this discussion will make them enthusiastic about the chores, encouraging them to take it up themselves.
Download the Mai app to improve your child’s interpersonal skills and also assess your child’s skill in ‘Volunteering’.