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“If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself.” – Henry Ford 

To be a part of a team is something most of us learned at a very young age. Maybe it was having a bunch of siblings, or a large gang of cousins, the neighbourhood kids or your childhood friends. This in turn would have helped us learn a lot of life skills, such as assertiveness, communication and sharing. But it also exposed us to the nuances of functioning in a team. The mantra being all for one and one for all! They say unity is strength. Being an effective member of a group takes a lot of skill and tact, in order to achieve goals successfully as a whole.

In a study conducted in many leading schools, we found that 86% of the children (aged 10-13 years) follow the given instructions while doing any task. 14% of the children do not follow the given instructions while doing any task.


How well does your child work in a team?

Does your child work well with others or prefer to work alone?

For a child to work together with others:

  • They need to be interactive.
  • They need to be objective.
  • They must have team spirit.
  • They must show leadership qualities-take the lead to complete the task if someone else is not able to.


Any activity that needs to be performed requires structure. This structure is provided in the form of instructions. They need to be followed for any activity to be successfully completed:

  • Instructions are given to enable the child to complete the given task in the most efficient manner.
  • It helps maintain order a routine.
  • This includes advice from elders.
  • Improves self-esteem, and leads to the emergence of leadership qualities.
  • They can frame opinions on whether they feel something is right or wrong and then seek to clarify it.
  • Helps them to understand the consequences of their actions on others and their environment/ situation.
  • Makes them more open minded and able to accept instructions and feedback from others. Even elders.

The child is unable to carry out the tasks only if:

    • They have not paid attention and actively listened to the rules when they were being explained.
    • They have listened, but not understood; and not proceeded to clarify their doubts.
    • They have listened and understood, but chose not to follow them.


How can you help your child?

We suggest-‘Answer me this’: a fun activity that aims at developing the child’s ability to frame opinions. This is imperative to the process of active listening. It involves: reading a story to the child, discussing what the child already knows about the topic, finding out what they thought was the best part of the story, and what they learned from it.


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